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Mercy is the only thing you can ask for, really, in life. Unmerited favor. Grace. Beauty and sweetness in the midst of grief and pain. Every day mercy is brand new, if you believe the Bible, and I do. I really, really do.

After our son Sage was born my husband was ready to be done. We had a beautiful child, and still some freedom, and we were hanging in there. Sage came with us in the front pack wherever we went. He slept in and woke up singing. He had been healthy except for this mysterious bruise that covered his left side. I pointed it out to the pediatrician, mindful of my own clotting issues, but she didn't seem too worried so I took her referral for the hematologist and put it in my pocket. I think it went through the wash.

I wanted more children. That is all I wanted, and I was going to have them. Don wanted to pursue his music, and play gigs, and he had not forgotten the vomiting, the hospital stays, and the day Sage was born when he stood between his hemorrhaging wife and residents frantically doing CPR on his limp, blue child. He had no wish to repeat that experience.

But I wanted more children. All I ever wanted was three boys. I was going to have them. I told Don as much. I would have more children, or we would not be married.

The selfishness of it staggers me now. It literally takes my breath away.

I watch my husband play with the child I insisted we have, a beautiful boy who has changed us, torn us apart and put us together again, broken our hearts and blessed us beyond words. There are no music projects now, no dates downtown, no sleeping in. Yet the joy in my husband's face is impossible to deny.

Jude had horrible jaundice as a newborn, and a high fever. One night I sat up all night long after the power was down in our city high rise, holding him and wondering if I should take him to the hospital. Every day I look at Jude and wonder if I ruined him, and that is the truth. Every hour we spend trying to teach him to button and color and his hands won't work, every time we meet with yet another therapist, I remember that night. I know God knows I would die rather than hurt my child. I know He knows that. But late at night when I can't sleep, that matters less than it should. Sage got Von Willebrands from me and from a lurking recessive gene from Don.
It is not a mild disorder for Sage, and never will be.

Then I got pregnant with Eden. I was terrified, of autism and jaundice and bleeds and dying and leaving Jude behind. Terrified my long suffering husband would finally have had enough.

Long ago I had wished for three boys, and a red headed son to remind me of my Grandmother.
Eden was born on her birthday, with bright red hair. A special gift from my secret pal, who hadn't forgotten the desires of my twisted and broken little heart.

And Eden does bleed. But he is not autistic. And we are happy, broken and struggling but happy. Because mercy is new, brand new, every single morning. Mercy, mysterious and wonderful and completely, absolutely undeserved. My children are beautiful, and we are wonderfully blessed with joy and sweetness and pain and love.

And mercy, sweet mercy.
Brand new. Every day.

Mercy lives here, and it's free.

Come and get it.